Do you have commitment problems?
Posted by lovelyloey on November 27, 2007
(Arh, I’m lapsing into the question as a title thing. Sulz, all your fault 
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I have this friend (whom I shan’t name but we all can guess). I think she has commitment problems. Say, yesterday was the 27th of November right, and I asked her out for the 7th of December, to celebrate the end of my examinations. Yet she couldn’t give me an answer if she can make it. I mean, if she’s already booked for that day, she should say no but if she’s not booked yet she should say yes? Or is the “I will get back to you” or “I have to check my schedule” thing a polite way of saying “I have better things to do than to spend time with you”. Strange isn’t it? And this is not the first time it has happened. Most of the time, the rest of us have to force her into a corner to make her commit.
So I mused a while and I feel that a lot of us have this commitment problem. Say, some of us go shopping, sees something we like, can’t make up our minds whether to get it or not, says something like “I’ll think about it” or “I’ll go to another shop” or “I’ll come back another day”. A commitment problem? A decisiveness problem? If you like something you’d commit; whenever I use the “I’ll come back another day” excuse, I wind up not going back, but I’ve seen people who go home, sit on the idea for a couple of days/weeks and going back to find the item not available anymore. My take is, if you like it and can afford it, just get it. If you can’t afford it, just forget about it. Coming back another day or checking another shop wouldn’t work.
I’m not even touching on the commitment problem with respect to relationships, which is a whole big issue on itself. But can I safely say that people who are indecisive, and fail to commit in the small facets of their lives often cannot commit in relationships as well?
sulz said
wah ha ha.
about the shopping thing, i do that all the time because there were times when i bought something and then later i saw something similar but better and i totally regret buying the first one! sometimes i go back after thinking about it, if i’m lucky the thing is still there if not it’s not… so many times regretted not giving into my initial desire! but then also scared i will regret that’s why so fili folo, if you get what i mean haha.
about your friend, very simple. she’s waiting to see if she’s got a better place to hang out that day. so if someone else invites her and it sounds more fun than what you plan to do with her she’ll tell you something came up so she can’t go… padahal you did ask when nobody asked already. cos if she really wanted to hang out with you she’ll say yes… though of course maybe she can’t commit if she got work commitments or something?
about the relationship thing, pffft. i hate fuckwits, that’s all i can say!
So see, she just doesn’t want to spend time with me HARD ENOUGH. LOL. Well, sometimes I fall into that shopping fallacy as well, but I always rationalize with myself that it’s the first love that counts since that would be entirely based on intuition and first impressions.
What rubbish, I know.